When I think about unconditional love, two easy examples come to mind. The first, is the love that most parents exhibit towards their child – sacrificing anything for them, without hesitation. The second, is God’s love towards us – which is described in the Bible as agape love and referenced throughout the New Testament.
My focus, however, is the challenge of showing unconditional love when it is anything but easy. Perhaps a decision was made by someone you care about deeply which unexpectedly rocked the foundation of the relationship, or you find yourself drifting apart from a loved one. There are several situations that come to mind, but they all lead us down this difficult path.
So what do you do when you love someone to the moon and back and their actions or decisions place such a huge challenge on your heart?
- Do you stop caring for them? (the whole “dead to me” idea)
- Do you stop praying for them? (the “no longer worth your time” concept)
- Do you just move on? (the “good luck with your life” thought)
If we follow God’s will and direction, the answer to all of these questions is the same. No.
- While we may not agree with the decision or action that was taken, we shouldn’t abandon them – because it could be part of a larger destiny where they will need your love even more.
- We should continue to pray for them, considering the fact that the content of your prayers may need to be adjusted.
- Abandoning them isn’t the answer either – especially when there could be additional circumstances that you were not fully aware of when their decision was made.
I’ve found that when I have unconditional love for someone, that admiration never seems to fade or go away … but actually increases with time. When faced with this type of challenge, instead of trying to “manage” it (like some type of illness), I try my best to embrace the situation and be as positive as possible … never giving up – similar to the agape love that God maintains for each of us.
Certainly, taking my approach doesn’t come without sadness or struggles, but I know in my heart that this is the best approach … at least to me.
Have a really great day!!!